When our relationship fails, we experience profound disappointment and sadness (even when the relationship was no longer good).

Whatever the reason for the split—and whether we wanted it or not—the breakup of a relationship can turn our whole world upside down and trigger all sorts of painful and unsettling emotions.

It represents the loss, not just of the partnership, but also of the dreams and commitments we shared.

It is essential to mourn all these losses and to express our pain. 

Grieving a relationship involves allowing ourselves to feel the emotions that are affecting us. While this may be painful, this can help us work through the grief and trauma that we may be experiencing due to the end of the relationship. 

Unfortunately, many women try to repress their deep sadness and fears inside.

They hold their feelings, crumbling on the inside and showing their best self on the outside… in order to protect their children and/or loved ones.

Until their mind and body finally crack.

It happened to a woman I met a few weeks ago – she attended a retreat I organised in the Sierra de Madrid, in Spain.

She told me that she felt completely lost when she got divorced a few years ago. But she did not allow herself to really grieve the loss of her marriage. She tried to move on as soon as possible in order to protect her daughter from the intensity of her emotions.

But two years later, she felt even more depressed than just after her divorce.

Grieving is essential to the healing process. The pain of grief is precisely what helps you let go of the old relationship and move on. And no matter how strong your grief, remember it won’t last forever.

Allow yourself some space to process your grief and feelings instead of putting them aside.

Processing your feelings is a little different than simply being able to feel them. For instance, when you process feelings while grieving a relationship, you may be able to understand some of the thought processes that occurred in your lost relationship. 

In other words, in hindsight, red flags may be easier to spot, or you may remember that your pairing wasn’t always equal. Research shows that if you can lessen your feelings of love for your ex, this may help you move forward in your life and process the stages of loss in a relationship more effectively.

If you need some help during this grief period, I would be happy to be your guide. Just book a call with me.

Everyone will have a different timeline, so remember when you think you will never feel better. It can get easier, and you can be happy and in a relationship again.

With all my love,

Gabrielle – Puranshant Kaur